Rekindling romance after having a baby can be challenging for couples. Having a baby is a joyous occasion, but it can bring stress to both your personal life and relationship with your significant other. Sex has probably become a distant memory, according to our expert friends at The Bump.
So, how can you rekindle the romance after bringing that little bundle of joy into the world?
In this article, we’ll give you 6 great tips to reconnect with your partner after having a baby.
That is, 6 ways of rekindling romance after having a baby
1). Let family members and friends help!
We know that it’s not always easy being separated from your beautiful baby boy or girl, even for a few hours, but it’s healthy to unwind for a little while. If the baby’s grandparents or uncles and aunts offer babysitting for a few hours, or even the whole night, take them up on it!
It’ll give you and your partner some well-deserved time together, and offer you the chance to speak about topics other than dipper and milk. It’ll be a relaxing moment you two can enjoy together and will let you cherish your baby that much more when you are reunited with them.
Don’t feel guilty about not being around your child 24/7. It’s healthy both for you two and the baby, as it’ll allow you to let go of some of the stress and enjoy some adult time, while at the same time let your baby feel comfortable around other family members.
2). Don’t let the guilt get the best of you
Let’s get this out of the way once and for all: The perfect mom and dad simply doesn’t exist. It’s a myth! And trying to live up to those impossible standards will only make you feel miserable and fill you with guilt.
There will be times when you want to be alone when you want to take an extra nap when you will want to take a bath without having to worry about the baby. It’s perfectly natural! Give yourself and your partner time to unwind, even if it’s not together. Go for a walk with the baby if your husband or wife has been taking care of them all day long and let them have some time for themselves.
It might seem counterintuitive to rekindle your love life by spending time apart, but you’ll have a far better relationship with you aren’t constantly stressed and exhausted.
3). Go out as a family!
You don’t necessarily have to search for a baby sitter to have a nice day out. Grab the stroller and head out to your favorite park, beach or even restaurant. Of course, you might not be able to go to the same kind of places you enjoyed before, but there are plenty of family-friendly options to choose from, and it will help bring you and your spouse closer if you shared fun activities as a family.
Don’t put too much pressure on yourself either! If the baby cries or everything doesn’t turn out perfect, that’s alright as well. Just enjoy yourself and your precious time with your lovely family, the rest will fall into place on its own.
4). Make a schedule
Sometimes its hard setting time apart to be with each other and enjoy some nice romantic time together. It’s great wanting to be impulsive and creative, but with a new kid in the house, sometimes its easier said than done.
Try and set a day aside for date night, and either speak to family members or hire a nanny to take care of the baby and be able to enjoy a nice night off.
You can also set a certain time of the night to be with each other before you two are too exhausted to do anything but fall asleep the moment you rest your head on your pillows. Physical and emotional intimacy are important factors in any relationship, so be sure not to relegate it to the background completely.
5). Be patient with each other
Sometimes you will be too exhausted to do anything more than cuddle, or will be grumpy and easily annoyed. It’s only natural: Lack of sleep and the stress of a newborn can certainly bring out the worse in your partner.
Try and be patient. Understand that they might not be having the best day and are in dire need of a bath, a nap or some time alone. Don’t try and pressure them to be happy and upbeat, and give them some space to rest and recover. It might be a good time to take the baby for a nice stroll or tell them to go have a nice cup of coffee and spend some time out of the house. They’ll surely do the same for you when you are the one feeling blue or stressed out.
Understanding each other’s needs and being patient is the best way to avoid bad moods from chipping away at your relationship.
6). Communication is important!
Don’t let the new schedules and busy days keep you two from communicating! Be sure to text or chat through the day about stuff other than the baby. Sure, it’s great to send those ten -or twenty!- pics of your sweet little baby discovering a new skill, but it’s also important to make sure you are more than just a mom or a dad. You are a wife or a husband, and you should prioritize your relationship as well.
Finally, make sure to let them know how you feel, not only about them but about yourself as well and the concerns you might be facing. Address the big and small issues when they arise instead of letting it bottle up. It’ll be a healthier option in the long run!
You can read what other parents are saying and the firsthand tips share over here at The Baby Centre.
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