ometimes, you just can’t trust your significant other. But is it all in your mind, or are they really two-timing you? In this article, well discuss 6 mind-blowing signs they may be cheating on you. It’s important to know that none of these signs alone is proof that they are cheating, but they are signs that something is not right with your relationship.
It might be painful to discover the truth, but in the end, it’s always best to know.
1). They are secretive about what they do on their phone and laptop
If your significant other constantly places their cellphone facing down or takes it with them even when they shower, they might be trying to keep a secret from you.
It’s also a bad sign if they never had passwords or codes for their electronic devices, and now all of a sudden, everything is encrypted. If you two share a computer and they constantly clean up the browser history every time they walk away from it, they are definitely trying to keep something from you.
These might be worrisome signs in and of itself, but if they tended to be very open about what they did with their cellphone and now refuse to hand it over even to order some food, then this is a clear sign that they might be cheating on you and trying to cover their tracks.
2). Massive changes in their routine
Routines can change: There is nothing wrong with this. But when they begin working late almost every night, or on certain nights and are suddenly unavailable when you need to speak to then, this might be a bad sign.
Liars usually have a bad memory, so they’ll end up slipping up the stories they’ve told you. Be alert to these small signs. Like when he claims he was at the gym but he didn’t take his sports clothes with him, or when he claimed he was working late and when you call them on the phone, you can hear strange noises on the background.
If you are really suspicious, you might resort to calling their office and asking to speak to them. Then you’ll definitely know if he’s still at work or left hours ago! Be careful not to overplay this card, though, because you can definitely get them in trouble if your suspicions are unfounded.
3). Their friends start acting strange around you
Usually, when someone is cheating on their spouse or partner, they tend to need the help of their friends to cover up their sneaking around.
These friends might begin acting weird around you, especially if they were nice and open towards you before. They might be feeling guilty or perhaps worried they’ll slip some bit of information you are not supposed to know
They might even be especially nice toward you, to the point that you just know that something has to be up. It’s possible they even avoid mentioning any activities they did with your significant other unless you bring it up, in order to avoid saying they weren’t with him when they were supposed to. No one wants to blow their friend’s cover, after all, and they might not have gotten their stories straight yet.
4). They begin spending more than usual and are unable to explain it
If they suddenly begin having money issues and don’t seem to make ends meet as well as they previously did, this might be a red flag. Of course, this can be easily explained with a big purchase or a debt, but if they can’t explain this issue, they might be spending their money on another person. Dating isn’t cheap, after all.
If you share an account with them and see big withdrawals they can’t explain, or gifts being bought that you never received, be alert. These are bad signs, and you should definitely confront your significant other about it.
It’s also a bad sign to see the same kind of expense too often: If they are always eating at the same restaurant, and it’s not close to their workplace, then something definitely smells fishy.
5). They seem emotionally detached from you
If all of a sudden a romantic and passionate lover turns distant and aloof, this is definitely not a good sign.
There might be other problems going on, of course, like stress at work or struggles within the relationship. That being said, you should still remain alert to other signs and make sure that they are not replacing your affections for those of another man or woman.
This is especially true if you two stop being intimate or they avoid being with you as often as they used to before. They might not want to kiss you until they take a shower after they return from a long day at the office, perhaps to hide the scent of a lover. Be sure to give them the benefit of the doubt at first: They might indeed just be tired. But if this behavior repeats itself often, it might be a sign that they are cheating.
6). They deflect any questions about cheating
If you have any questions about your significant other’s attitude, you should be able to calmly ask them about it. Perhaps you have doubts and want to know if they truly were working late or why they lied about hanging out with their friends when they were clearly not with him.
If they completely deflect your questions and try to accuse you of being irrational, it’s not a good sign. Be sure to keep your cool so that they can’t blame you for losing your temper. Calmly tell them you want answers, and if they still refuse, then remember that silence is also an answer in and of itself.