ooking for how to know a first date went well? Here we’ll give you 5 sure signs that’ll leave you with no doubts.
“It was lovely to meet you”
“Oh, you too! I had a great evening.”
“…speak soon then?”
…and with that, you close the car door and head off towards your front door, keys in hand and a firm focus on not tripping over your own feet as your date watches you go.
But now what? For anyone who has been on the dating scene in their adult lives, you’ll know the minefield that first dates can be. Checking your phone for a sign of life and debating whether it’s too soon to call are recognizable symptoms of modern dating. It can be a confusing time and more than a little stressful.
We’re busy modern people. We have careers we are guiding forwards, friends to support in their many varied crises (you know the ones) and a hectic schedule of Netflix to keep up with. We just simply don’t have time to mess about with picking up signs or the lack of.
So, how exactly can we pick up if a first date has gone well without the hassle? Let’s get straight into it;
1). You didn’t have the urge to reach for your phone once.
If you’ve ever been on a date where you’ve felt the natural urge to pick up and check your phone, then it’s likely you just weren’t that into what the other person was saying. Unfortunately, phone addiction is a common social problem we’re all likely guilty of.
But if it’s occurring within a date, then it may be a sign one of you has checked out already. Even if you can come up with a list of reasons they should be the one you walk down the aisle towards – listen to your instincts here. Is he on his phone during your date? If so, this is not a signal of connection. Move on up from this one.
2). They walked you to where you were going next.
Along with modern feminism, we all appreciate beautiful manners – right? If your date makes a natural effort to ensure you catch your subway safely or they walk you to where your cab driver is collecting you, then this is a great sign.
Not only is this person worth their salt, but it also shows a genuine interest in your wellbeing and your safety. Plus, this short walk together is a great opportunity for arranging the next date – see the next point!
3). You make some near-future plans.
Has your date vaguely mentioned catching some movie or another ‘at some point’? This isn’t a great sign that this one is destined to be going anywhere. Have they nodded agreeably when you proposed the idea of a next date, without a lot of suggestion of when that could happen? Sadly, this one’s likely to be a non-starter.
But if your date makes some proper plans with you that include a time, a place and a reassurance they’ll be in touch to confirm, then you could be on to a winner. Look out for them mentioning the idea more than once – reiteration is ‘signal gold’ in the dating world.
4). You are able to be yourself with them.
The process of dating isn’t about trying to convince someone of your worth. It certainly isn’t about trying to ‘win’ your way forward in your pursuit of love, either. Despite what media and all those many movies might have informed us, what we’re supposed to be aiming for is to be ourselves in the presence of another.
And indeed, for the better sides of ourselves to be naturally encouraged. Sure, attraction and physicality can play a part. But if you aren’t able to be yourself in the company of your date then this isn’t happy nor healthy makings of a potential relationship. Always be your brilliant self – it’s undoubtedly the version the world would love to see.
5). You lose track of time – in the best possible way.
Modern living implicates us being very aware of our time, and indeed when and where it’s spent. If you find yourself wandering through a date with someone without paying attention to the time, then this could be the most significant sign that you are on a platinum date. The kind you tell your friends about. Perhaps even the sort you might tell at your wedding… OK, let’s not get too far ahead of ourselves here!
In any case, it’s an incredibly positive sign if you find yourself losing track of time together. The important thing to note is that you are relaxed and happy in this person’s company. Dating gold!
Key Take Away (5 ways to know a first date went well )
Finally, every dating situation is different from another, which is one of the joys of the dating experience. If and when things become confusing, read these simple signal notes back to check in with where you’re at.
Don’t forget to enjoy getting to know the people you spend time with. It’s not a race, nor a challenge. Or at least it shouldn’t be!
If a date has made you feel anxious or self-conscious, it’s not one to repeat again with that particular person. If the date has ended with a friendly walk to your train stop, a sense of warmth, and a lack of panic about where it’s headed – then you can certainly enjoy making plans for another date. You can read more on this topic in this blog post by our friends at Best Life.
Know someone preparing for a first date or you might need to prepare yourself for another first date lined up? This article discusses 5 topics to avoid on a first date. Read, Learn and Enjoy!
Never forget that you’re absolutely worth getting to know. The right person really does exist for you – you just might have to have a few ‘practice runs’ until you find them. Happy dating!
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